Updated: May 19
Anyone up for getting a brain cookie today? Here’s a yummy one I’d like to share with you!
Thought #1: You win by being you.
Thought #2: Fake it to make it.
What’s up with that? Is it possible for someone to do/say/believe both statements and still be in integrity?
It’s by adopting a belief system that swaps out “either/or” for “both and more.”
Either/or feels limited, rigid, and stifling. Both and more feels expansive, flexible, and light. Which feels better?
Here, if you believe that someone wins ONLY by being themselves, then it forces you to believe that to fake it to make it is wrong. But hold on a sec, because I want to challenge you there.
(Anyone who knows me well knows that I’m a wordie and a thinker. I love to read stuff that twists my brain a bit, I really dig having thoughtful discussions, and I truly enjoy the process of making sense of seemingly incongruent ideas.)
Me, I believe both thought #1 and thought #2, which puts me in the both and more camp. Why? Because I’m allowing for expanded possibilities. “You win by being you” is a comforting thought and is a fist-pump for authenticity. Good stuff, right? “Fake it to make it” for me is NOT taken at face value. Haven’t we all had the experience of putting on the “brave face” for something unpleasant? Smiling through a difficult time? One of the things I used to do for my chemo appointments was to always dress well and put myself together, no matter how crappy I felt. I was “faking it to make it” and it actually worked! But I was still winning by being myself.
When I'm coaching a client, many times the "either/or" and "both and more" ways of thinking are explored in depth. My training in Transformational Coaching Method guides me as I encourage my clients to open up to new ways of thinking. I help them uncover expanded possibilities of choice. This is key work in order to get un-stuck in whatever muck you’re in and moving forward toward sustainable optimal health and lifestyle habits. The truth is, it sounds like a lot, but it's really eye opening! When you begin to see options in place of blocks, and feel energized by positivity and being held as capable, the floodgates open and you become unstoppable!
Having a Certified Coach in your corner, one who is trained to help you revise old standby habits that keep you stuck, into upgraded ones that are fun, sustainable, and move you forward, is a great way to GET SHIT DONE! :)
With love and inspired wellness,
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